This Mother’s Day we thought it would be fun to do a short series of letters written from mothers to their younger selves with advice or wisdom from the future. You know, one of those knowing what I know now I would…
Letter one by a friend and author Ginger
Letter two by mom
And this is the third letter written by me, who is 4 years into motherhood.
Dear Me (one year ago),
I love you I wish I could go back in time and give you a big hug and say you are nailing it. YOU AREN’T FAILING. You are pushing through a huge trial. The biggest you’ve had so far. Being the mother of infants and toddlers is no joke. Being on the other side of infants and pregnancy is awesome.
I used to think the strong willed child was a notion made up by failing parents, but I assure you that there are compliant kids that just do what their moms say. Your third child will be compliant and adorable. You aren’t doing anything wrong to have two strong willed kids. Joe and Hazel both think they could do whatever they want and still a year later pitch huge fits when I stand my ground and tell them no. Don’t stop holding your ground. They need to know their boundaries.
Don’t discount the realness of your situation and the relentless challenges your children present in these days. It will not always be like this. You will not always feel like you want to hurt, yell, and run all the time. There will be better days. Even a year from now you will have a really hard days. Just yesterday zero kids obeyed. And we battled. But those days are father apart than they were a year ago when I had a 3 year old, 2 year old and a 6month old.
I want to assure you that you are doing good, hard, challenging work. You aren’t missing the point. The mundane nature of mothering isn’t bad, it’s vital. It’s just part of the trial of parenting. Lean in on the promise that God will give you wisdom and patience. And that your weakness is made perfect through His strength. You are battling sister, and you are going to make it out changed and beautiful.
Your happier future self
Photography by Sarah Waggoner